Your Groom Wedding Speech Tips

Having brainstorming sessions as I mentioned early is great and will help you to gather all the information you want to use in your groom wedding speech. But we should not kid ourselves here. Your mind will be occupied with your groom speech and groom toast almost all the time. And it will happen more than once that you have an idea at times and places you are not prepared for. Especially of that I bought a small old fashioned notebook and a pen and always carried it around. If you do not want to buy a small notebook just for that a simple piece of paper will do the trick as well.

Do it! It will come in handy!

I had so many great ideas not only in the office at work, but also in the supermarket even sometimes in a restroom and was always happy that I was able to write it down right away to further improve my groom speech.

You will not regret keeping something to write down with you all the time.

In my first post I gave you the possibly most important advice: Start early! Now let us talk about how to get it done without going insane. You need material to fill your wedding speech with. It might sound like overkill planning for something like a simple groom speech. Believe me when I tell you, a speech is never as simple as it seems to be. With every day of your ongoing efforts to work on your groom speech you will gather more material that will either raise questions or you want to use in your wedding speech. After a couple of weeks more likely days, you will have so much material at your hand that it will be difficult to keep track of everything. But how to get all the information being used in a groom wedding speech?

Brainstorming sessions.

Find a time and place where no one is bothering you. Turn of the cell phone. Avoid any distractions. Find a relaxing position either if it is lying down, sitting or even wandering around in your room. Whatever suits you best to let your thoughts flow around your groom speech will do. If you are not familiar with the whole concept of brainstorming: It is about gathering information. The quality does NOT matter. Only the quantity is important. If you have an idea for your groom speech (a funny wedding speech joke for example), write it down. If you second thoughts about the idea. Do NOT act on it! Keep it! Even if you do not use it later, maybe it will trigger another, maybe even better idea!

So always keep in mind: Write everything down!

I asked myself if I should do it alone or seek help of friends or even my wife. I suggest you do all of it. Brainstorm on your own, but also do it with a close friend even with your best man (he has to work on his best man speech and could appreciate the additional input) and later your wife. What you should avoid is a meeting with a friend AND your wife. It will only lead to confusion and more headaches. Here is what I did:

• First speech Brainstorming alone
• Waiting a couple of days.
• Second speech Brainstorming with best man
• Waiting a couple of days
• Third speech Brainstorming with my bride
• Waiting a few more days
• Speech Brainstorming alone again

Why the breaks among the sessions you might ask? The reason is simple but powerful: It helps a lot to check the material later and  to look at everything from a different perspective. One last advice on brainstorming: Do not fall for the thought you have to use anything your friends or especially your wife are mentioning. You DO NOT have to do that! In the end it is your groom wedding speech and it should reflect you and your personality.